"We long for a love in which we are never reduced or misunderstood. We have a morbid resistance to classification by others, to others placing labels on us...To ourselves, we are after all always un-labelable. When alone, we are always simply 'me', and shift between sides of ourselves effortlessly and without the constraints imposed by the preconceptions of others...
But as we must be labelled, characterized, and defined by others, the person we end up loving is...the person who loves us for more or less the things we deem ourselves to be lovable for, who understands us for more or less the things we need to be understood for. That 'chloe' and I were together implied that, for hte moment at least, we had been given enough room to expand in the ways our complexitites demanded.
-Alain de Botton
"Essays in Love"
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